Romance and Love

Whatever you’re searching for when doing the dating dance, be it your future ex-spouce, soul mates, or that ultimate, perfect companion, online dating does seem to have a certain appeal over the older, tried and true method of endless bar-hopping.

For starters, you can do it in your bathrobe and underwear. Why not, right? You’ve posed your very best pictures in your very best outfits, why not sit there and scratch yourself and enjoy your morning coffee while you peruse others who are doing the same? Then there’s the time involved. Who on earth wants to dash out after work every night and commit serious liver damage hanging out in bars just in the hope of meeting a potential partner? And don’t tell me you can just go to a bar and not drink. Have you every tried it? Seriously, drunks are intolerable when you’re sober, especially when you’re feeling lonely. You save money by dating online. I’d put the cost of a monthly membership up against my average bar tab any ol’ day of the week. You save money on cab fare, and the embarrassment and often flat-out drudgery of seeing the same faces in the same places.

So you hop online, geared up and good to go, prepared to utilize every tried and true method of positive thought that all the teachers of The Law of Attraction have tossed out into the world to help you attract the perfect companion. YOu fill out all the forms. You whittle down the options, getting rid of those who are too thin or too fat, too tall or too short, kids or no kids, those who pray to the wrong god or work in the wrong career. You can even go to a niche dating website and find ONLY those people who are into EXACTLY what you are into! Sites for dog lovers, military folks, sports fans, and every kind of sexual weirdness you could think of (and some you’d rather not think about at all).

But what happened to the old adage, “Opposites attract”…? I’m not saying there’s any truth to that. I think opposites do attract, and then drive each other insane. But seriously, what happened to discovery? To learning? To bringing something else to the table? Would you really, truly want to spend lots of “quality time” with someone who reminds them so much of yourself it eventually makes you sick?

The good news is, there’s always something different and new about each and every one of us. The most boring twit on earth has so many layers to their personality, you could never, ever sum that person up with a short, squat page of text, and a small grid of six or seven images. I don’t care how many so-called compatibility tests a dating website offers, they can’t match up with any REAL degree of accuracy two creatures as infinitely complex as the average (or even the sub-average) human being.

So whittle away if you must, narrow down your likes and dislikes all that you like. Search for dating soulmates, flirting dog lovers, and those who collect fine cheese. Whatever you’re into. Just always remember, finding Mr or Ms right is never going to be as easy as looking in the mirror. If that was the case, you would be shallow enough to be content with just the mirror and never bother to look.

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